Here are four questions that I assert we are always asking our partners, even if silently:
- Do you see me?
- Do you care that I’m here?
- Am I enough for you, or do you need me to be better in some way?
- Can I tell that I’m special to you by the way that you look at me?
One of my strengths is in working with you and your partner to assist you in your therapeutic goals. Whether this is addressing your sex life, your communication, your extended family struggles, establishing behavior plans for your children, or premarital counseling, I enjoy this work immensely. I am trained in Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy model, which creates new, positive interactions between partners and strengthens emotional bonds. I work with partners on exploring the spirit of your conflict, rather than the content.
My Approach to Couples Counseling
My approach to couples counseling is to help partners learn more about each other and acquire healthy problem-solving skills. I usually interview both partners, together and individually, during the first few meetings. Afterward, I will provide feedback. I will help you to set therapeutic goals with my guidance, and develop a plan for therapy so each of you knows what to expect. In couples therapy, positive results often depend on both partners’ levels of motivation and dedication to the process. You can expect direct and candid reflection and advice from me about your prognosis and progress.